For me, one of the most poignant interactions between misogyny and homophobia is how long it often takes lesbians to fully understand that we just aren’t attracted to men. The overt pressure society puts on us to be with men is a given, but women are just point-blank not taught to understand what attraction feels like — let alone prioritize our own sexual desires. Our sole concern is supposed to be whether or not men find us attractive. Whether we find them attractive is simply never asked. It’s difficult to know the answer to a question that you have never been asked.